1 a seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to exploit men [syn: coquette, vamp, vamper, minx, tease, prickteaser]
2 playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest [syn: flirting, flirtation, coquetry, dalliance, toying]
1 talk or behave amorously, without serious intentions; "The guys always try to chat up the new secretaries"; "My husband never flirts with other women" [syn: chat up, dally, butterfly, coquet, coquette, romance, philander, mash]
2 behave carelessly or indifferently; "Play about with a young girl's affection" [syn: dally, toy, play]
- Rhymes: -ɜː(r)t
- To throw with a jerk or quick effort; to fling suddenly; as, they flirt water in each other's faces; he flirted a glove, or a handkerchief.
- To toss or throw about; to move playfully to and fro; as, to flirt a fan.
- To jeer at; to treat with contempt; to mock.
- To run and dart about; to act with giddiness, or from a desire to attract notice
- To play the coquette; to play at courtship; to coquet; as, they flirt with the young men.
- To utter contemptuous language, with an air of disdain; to jeer or gibe.
- French: flirter (5)
- German: flirten (5)
- Ido: flirtar
- Irish: súgradh (verbal noun) (5)
- Mandarin: (tiáoqíng)
- Spanish: coquetear, galantear, seducir
Flirting is a form of human interaction between two people, expressing a sexual and/or romantic interest. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.
The origin of the word flirt is obscure. The Oxford English Dictionary (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as flit and flick, emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French "Conter fleurette", which means "to (try to) seduce" by the dropping of flower leaves, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". This expression is no longer used in French, but the English gallicism to flirt has made its way and has now become an anglicism.
Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long-term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.
In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.
People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. One way they accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.
Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs. Among these, at least in Western society, are:
- Eye contact, batting eyelashes, etc.
- "Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
- Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
- Smiling suggestively
- Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
- Online chat is a common modern tactic, as well as other one-on-one and direct messaging services
- Footsie, the "feet under the table" practice
- Chance meeting
During World War II, anthropologist Margaret Mead was working in Britain for the British Ministry of Information and later for the U.S. Office of War Information, delivering speeches and writing articles to help the American soldiers better understand the British civilians, and vice versa.
She observed in the flirtations between the American soldiers and British women a pattern of misunderstandings regarding who is supposed to take which initiative. She wrote of the Americans, "The boy learns to make advances and rely upon the girl to repulse them whenever they are inappropriate to the state of feeling between the pair.", as contrasted to the British, where "the girl is reared to depend upon a slight barrier of chilliness... which the boys learn to respect, and for the rest to rely upon the men to approach or advance, as warranted by the situation." This resulted, for example, in British women interpreting an American soldier's gregariousness as something more intimate or serious than he had intended.
Communications theorist Paul Watzlawick used this situation, where "both American soldiers and British girls accused one another of being sexually brash", as an example of differences in "punctuation" in interpersonal communications. He wrote that courtship in both cultures used approximately 30 steps from "first eye contact to the ultimate consummation", but that the sequence of the steps was different. For example, kissing might be an early step in the American pattern but a relatively intimate act in the English pattern.
- SIRC Guide to Flirting
- Nonverbal Courtship Patterns In Women: Context and Consequences
- Psychology Today - Flirting Fascination –Reviews several studies on flirting
flirt in Arabic: غزل (فعل)
flirt in Danish: Flirte
flirt in Czech: Flirt
flirt in German: Flirt
flirt in Spanish: Coqueteo
flirt in Esperanto: Amindumo
flirt in French: Flirt
flirt in Hungarian: Flört
flirt in Lithuanian: Flirtas
flirt in Dutch: Flirten
flirt in Norwegian: Kurtisering
flirt in Polish: Flirt
flirt in Portuguese: Flerte
flirt in Russian: Флирт
flirt in Simple English: Flirting
flirt in Finnish: Flirttailu
flirt in Yiddish: פלירטינג
flirt in Chinese: 搭訕
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